The Power of Association

Meet John,

John grew up in a modest family, went to college, the university got a job in a big corporation and his family was proud of his efforts and relentless years of study to get where he is at.

But now, John hit a plateau. After years of working he had lost his determination to go fiercely through life or even learning relentlessly as before.

He even became fat, unhealthy, started smoking, drinking alcohol and spending most his time in nightclubs with his colleagues who were, of course, the same type of people.

Meaning fat, unhealthy, smoker, drinker etc. If you feel like John, then listen carefully. If not, then you might become like John too so, you better listen.

You become who you surround yourself with. John was a great guy, passionate about life but not his colleagues at the office, “Where he spends most of his life”.

John became this way by his association with his colleagues and at an invisible level, he adopted the same habits as them. In other words, he became like the people he spends most of his time with.

In contrast, if John had spent time with people playing at world-class, high performers, people with great vision and ambition, people who are going somewhere meaningful well, he would have become the same type of person.

I have two questions for you:

  1. Who are you spending most of your time with?
  2. Who are the people you admire the most?

If the answers to both these questions are not the same group of people, then you are in trouble.

Rohn taught me that we become the combined average of the 5 people we hang around with. We can tell the quality of our health, our income, our attitude by looking at the people around us.

The people around us will determine what conversation dominate our attention or what kind of attitudes, ideas and opinions we are regularly exposed to.

And with time, we will start to eat what they eat, talk like they talk, think like they think, walk like they walk, watch what they watch, treat other like they do or we even start dressing like them.

Now the question is, who are you spending most of your time with? Is it friends who order greaser food, alcoholic drinks. That’s their routine and they may also have an after-dinner cigarette.

Hang out with them enough and you will find yourself grabbing the wedges, burgers or the cheesecake and maybe join them in that after dinner cigarette, matching the crowd.

But instead let’s say you spend time with people with who talk about the books they are reading, the dreams they want to achieve, friends who order healthy food. Who are not smokers and drinkers. Spend your time with them and soon enough you will model their behaviour and habits.

You must constantly ask yourself these questions:

Who am I around?

What are they doing to me?

What have they got me reading?

What have they got me saying?

Where do they have me going?

What do they have me thinking?

And most importantly, what do they have me becoming?

And finally, ask yourself the big question. Is that okay?

If it’s not Okay right now for you, then you need to cut the dead trees in your garden and replace them with good seeds.

You can’t grow good trees from bad seeds, you need to be around the people who will lift you up and take your life to the next level.

As Human being, we tend to lower or raise our standard to match the group we are assigned to. As the saying goes, if you are the smartest person in your neighbourhood then you need to find a new neighbourhood.

If you are the smartest person in your group of friends then you need new friends.

The power of association has been talked about so many times before but this has always been one of the greatest limitations success seekers faced on the path to raise their game or change their life.

You need a mastermind group who will help you raise your standard and constantly climb your own mountain. People who are aligned with what you are looking for. People who have the results you are after.

Now is the greatest time in history and we are able to reach people all over the globe with a click of a button. Take their online courses, go to their seminars, read their books, watch their interviews.

All this is called association. The world is flattening, you need to adjust and make the necessary changes to move to the next level. The opportunity is here; you only need to grab it before your enthusiasm fades.

Think about your 3 biggest goals this year and next evaluate your associations. Are they smarter than you? Are they going where you are going?

Are they pulling you back or pushing you forward? Take this seriously. I know the choice will be hard to make but you need to seek people who will get you at a high-performance level.

Seek the best to become the best.

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The Power of Association
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